Family Systems
Hello everyone! Hope everyone has had an AWESOME week. Today I want to share some insights about different systems and how they work in the family. Most everything in this world runs on systems. This is also true when it comes to the family.First of all, the family is only as strong as the parents marriage. The system of the parents, in a way lays the foundation for the entire family. That is why it is essential for a family to prosper to have parents who love each other, and put their marriage first. Their relationship sets the tone for the other systems within the family.
Within family systems such as father-son, mother-daughter, sibling-sibling there need to be appropriate boundaries for all relationships within the family. For example, father-son or mother- daughter should not have the same boundaries as the mother-father. A healthy boundary for parents would include them having a private life that is completely separate of the children. They will be able to share concerns, confidences and have sexual relations with one another that is separate from the children. This is an example of a healthy boundary. Boundaries keep all the systems working properly. If there were no boundaries within the family, chaos would consume the family. It would become a very unhappy household. Not having boundaries would also be inappropriate and unhealthy.
The parents set the foundation, so it is really up to them how to teach their children what is appropriate and what is not. I also think it is really important to teach your children the boundaries when they are little. This will set the children up for success as they grow up. They will be able to understand each persons role in their family. Then when they grow up and start their own families they will be able to understand the roles each relationship in the family has, and can distinguish what is appropriate and what is not.
Families are so important, and each member in the family has their own specific role. Having a role gives everyone an identity, and we can each learn and grow from our own roles and systems within our families. I know if we teach our children their roles they will be happier children, and will have a healthy relationship with everyone in the family. Having systems in the family and having boundaries is a great tool to have in raising successful and happy children.
What do you guys think about family systems? Are they important? Leave your thoughts in the comment section.
Here is an awesome article on family systems. Feel free to check it out!
http://www.familystructurestudies.com/
Within family systems such as father-son, mother-daughter, sibling-sibling there need to be appropriate boundaries for all relationships within the family. For example, father-son or mother- daughter should not have the same boundaries as the mother-father. A healthy boundary for parents would include them having a private life that is completely separate of the children. They will be able to share concerns, confidences and have sexual relations with one another that is separate from the children. This is an example of a healthy boundary. Boundaries keep all the systems working properly. If there were no boundaries within the family, chaos would consume the family. It would become a very unhappy household. Not having boundaries would also be inappropriate and unhealthy.
The parents set the foundation, so it is really up to them how to teach their children what is appropriate and what is not. I also think it is really important to teach your children the boundaries when they are little. This will set the children up for success as they grow up. They will be able to understand each persons role in their family. Then when they grow up and start their own families they will be able to understand the roles each relationship in the family has, and can distinguish what is appropriate and what is not.
Families are so important, and each member in the family has their own specific role. Having a role gives everyone an identity, and we can each learn and grow from our own roles and systems within our families. I know if we teach our children their roles they will be happier children, and will have a healthy relationship with everyone in the family. Having systems in the family and having boundaries is a great tool to have in raising successful and happy children.
What do you guys think about family systems? Are they important? Leave your thoughts in the comment section.
Here is an awesome article on family systems. Feel free to check it out!
http://www.familystructurestudies.com/
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